In this article, we look at why your brain keeps thinking about your ex, how to stop ruminating about an ex, and a short exercise that can help.
In this post, we explore five key signs of a healthy securely attached relationship.
Struggling with an anxious attachment style while dating? Here are four practical strategies to help you better cope with your anxiety and build healthier relationships.
It may come as a relief to know that yes, you can absolutely change your attachment style. Unlike personality, attachment style is fluid: it changes for the better or for the worse depending on your relationships
Are you looking for help with your Anxious Attachment? The good news is that your attachment style can change. Get ready to learn some secrets to become more securely attached.
The conversation about consent has reached a fever pitch and is getting some well-deserved attention that allows us to look more closely at how we approach sex in dating and beyond. But there’s still something missing; something that I see in my couples counseling practice more often than you would believe: There’s no conversation […]
Pitching the idea of going to couples counseling to your partner is uncomfortable, to be sure, maybe even scary. It can be difficult to address getting counseling because, once the fight is over, you don’t want to rock the precarious boat that finally feels somewhat okay. Maybe you don’t think couples counseling will help […]
Do you have a sense of how your diet and exercise contribute to your wellbeing and mood? Many of the clients that I see complaining of anxiety, depression, lethargy, or sleeplessness are surprised when I ask about their food and caffeine intake. It’s not that they don’t care what goes into their body, but […]
5 Ways To Help Avoidant Attachment and Create Security Now Knowing your attachment style, or how you relate to the people you love, can be incredibly helpful in romantic relationships. Attachment styles reflect how we were parented, and as most parents are fallible, our attachment styles aren’t always secure. Knowing your attachment style can help […]
Are You Anxiously Attached? Here are some ways to know if you have an anxious attachment style.
See if any of these scenarios feel familiar to you: You’re arguing with your partner and start to feel overwhelmed. Even though they’re asking you to stay, you need to get out of there. You leave and ignore your partner’s calls for several days. Your partner wants to snuggle up with you on […]
Getting fired is a lot like going through a breakup. It can be devastating, relieving, shocking, really difficult, surprisingly easy or all of the above. It shakes your stability and your routine. If getting fired from your job is in the devastating category, here are a few tips: 1) Remember that getting fired is like […]
Sometimes when I am working with clients they feel hopeless because they have identified that there is something that they don’t know how to do. Sometimes this is a capacity that they haven’t learned (such as creating boundaries or sharing from their heart). In other cases it is a practical skill that was never taught […]
“The doorway To your creation Is your wanting. Desire gave birth To the world. Let yourself want my friend, Each wish is a blessed Treasure. Let yourself want my friend, The Earth longs To hear your Whisper. Let yourself want my friend, For your yearnings Are not too big, Not impossible In […]
The eagle soars In circles Just for the pleasure Of the wind Under its body. You too Are carried By the winds of the world. To feel The currents holding you up, Fall Toward your joy.
Hopelessness—it hits most of us, one time or another. Sometimes I feel like most of my clients are trying to convince me that some part of their lives is hopeless. They have all kinds of reasons that they can’t have the relationship, the career, the health, the money or the peace that they want. At […]
I love this poem from Rilke: “Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.” I think about it a lot when I am working […]
"I was just like you. Struggling & desperate to have a supportive relationship"
I'm Sefora, your new get-a-grip relationship coach.
I have been a transformational leader and coach for over 20 years. I received my Masters in Counseling Psychology at Meridian University, and have over 10,000 hour of training and work with individuals and couples as a therapist. I am a level 2 PACT therapist for couples, trained in how psychobiology affects your relationships and how to create secure attachment. I am also trained in Attachment Focused EMDR.
Transformational Leader, Therapist, Relationship Coach, Attachment Expert & Boss Mom
I studied attachment work for 2 decades both personally and professionally. Changing your attachment style is possible. I'll be honest, it takes grit! But there are things that most people can learn that can improve their attachment in relationships. In my individual sessions and classes I create a safe space for growth and reflection, humor and insight, but not always in that order.
I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist, #96387