Things to look for when you want to be in a secure relationship while dating


So you have decided you want to relationship but you don’t want to date people who are unavailable or avoidant. Here are some things that you should be on the lookout for: Do they actually want a relationship? Do they like being in relationship? Do they know how to be a good partner? (you will need to define what being a “good partner” means, but generally: listens to you, is thoughtful, plans time with you, asks you how you are doing, responds compassionately, supports you when you are low or in need, is attuned to you specifically, remembering things you tell [...]

Things to look for when you want to be in a secure relationship while dating2021-06-16T22:33:37+00:00

Expressing Grief Brings Us Closer to Life, In Remembrance of Luanne Blaich


Sitting in my office today with the midday sun streaming through the window, my eyes continue to be drawn to a small bouquet of white roses from the memorial service of my friend Luanne Blaich, held last night.  Their beauty is a perfect reminder of the amazing opportunity that Luanne's death has been for me and many others.  Luanne died after a 3.5 year battle with Leukemia, in which her brave fight deeply humbles me. To speak about someone's death as an opportunity is strange and somewhat awkward.  And yet, Luanne's death was an opportunity in many ways.  It was an incredible experience to be a [...]

Expressing Grief Brings Us Closer to Life, In Remembrance of Luanne Blaich2012-03-05T07:32:47+00:00

Counseling with Coaching for Women


Are you looking to create the relationship and life that you love? Do you feel like you give so much that your own needs are not attended to? Looking for compassionate support to move through blocks in your life? As women, we can tend to give to others to the expense of our own needs.  We can be riddled with self doubt and anxiety.  We can get stuck in comparing ourselves to the other women around us.  We can long for intimacy, but fear abandonment so much that we stay frozen and along.  We can doubt our own ability, and our [...]

Counseling with Coaching for Women2013-02-12T00:56:52+00:00

Citizens of the Earth, take heart


I once read a book on reincarnation called "Life Between Lives" by Michael Newton.  In general, I have mixed feelings about reincarnation. Sometimes I believe that it is a metaphor for the many lives that we live in one lifetime. A grand description of how over and over again we are offered the chance to start again. For example, I don't know about you, but my childhood feels like 5 lifetimes ago.  It has a dream quality, like it was lived by me, but it was not me too. And with each new day, each new moon, each year, each moment, [...]

Citizens of the Earth, take heart2011-10-10T22:26:15+00:00



The eagle soars In circles Just for the pleasure Of the wind Under its body. You too Are carried By the winds of the world. To feel The currents holding you up, Fall Toward your joy.


The Dragon’s in Our Lives


I love this poem from Rilke: "Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love." I think about it a lot when I am working with my clients.  So often we have strong feelings of pain, jealousy, disgust or rage that seem like awful feelings.  In a way, those feelings are dragons.  They seem gnarly and evil, snarling at us to pay attention to them.  They also feel out of control and like [...]

The Dragon’s in Our Lives2011-08-16T21:28:46+00:00

Inspiration from Rilke


Believe that with your feelings and your work you are taking part in the greatest; the more strongly you cultivate this belief, the more will reality and the world go forth from it. Rainer Maria Rilke

Inspiration from Rilke2011-08-14T06:42:26+00:00