Sefora Janel Ray, LMFT | Anxious Attachment Therapist & Coach

I have a lot of heart, and I can sometimes make you laugh.

But of course as a therapist I would say that. For as long as I can remember, I was someone who people talked to. I wasn't scared to be deep, or to share about things that others had a hard time with. So, it made sense that it became my career.

I have worked in the field of personal growth and transformation for over 20 years, facilitating groups and working with individuals. I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist, and a Relationship Coach.

Honestly, it began when I was a kid.

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Secure love is not rare. Once you learn how to recognize it, you’ll stop wasting time on people who can’t meet you and start creating the partnership you’ve always deserved.

Calm the anxious spirals and feel steady in yourself.

Spot the difference between real red flags and normal relationship stress.

Attract partners who are actually capable of giving you secure love.

I'm Sefora Janel Ray, LMFT, a psychotherapist, attachment coach, and attachment-based EMDR therapist specializing in anxious attachment and relationships.

I specialize in working with adults who feel successful everywhere but in love. If you’ve been stuck chasing unavailable partners, over-giving to keep relationships alive, or doubting if you’ll ever feel chosen — you’re not broken.

With over 15,000 clinical hours as a couples therapist, I combine attachment science, nervous system tools, and strategic dating frameworks so you can:

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Helping Anxious Attachers Create Secure Love

I'm a mix of California woo, with East Coast science and rational thinking, bringing both perspective and potential to my work.

If I can, I will try to make you laugh, as laughter is a very important medicine for healing and I believe in balancing the tears with big snorting chuckles. #middleagedhumor, #bringingtheheatbutinflashesnow

I strive to be truly helpful, and I hope to leave the planet with more love, laughter and grace than it had when I got here.

I believe that mental healthcare should be available to everyone, and that healthcare practitioners should get paid fairly for the work they put in. To that end I always have free and low fee offerings for anything I teach, but also have ways to work more personally with me. I believe that the societal impacts of the hustle on our psychology are way understated. I believe that there is not shame in getting support, and that our individualized culture has hurt us deeply.

My superpower is giving people feedback about themselves in a way that is compassionate and actionable.

In my work I try to hold the balance of potent healing with levity and joy. I try to keep myself and my clients in touch with the larger perspectives in life, and help us both stop and appreciate deep breaths and the hawks flying in the breeze. I believe in the greatness that you are, the potency of creation that you are a part of and that works through you.

My Creds:

I have been studying personal growth and transformation for over 20 years. I got my MA at Meridian University, and I'm a licensed Marriage Family Therapist with over 10 years of practice and 4000 hours of supervised training. I am a level 2 PACT therapist, helping people understand the psychobiological aspects to our attachment. I am also trained in attachment based EMDR.