Honestly, it began when I was a kid.

But of course as a therapist I would say that.  For as long as I can remember, I was someone who people talked to.  I wasn't scared to be deep, or to share about things that others had a hard time with.  So, it made sense that it became my career.

I have worked in the field of personal growth and transformation for over 20 years, facilitating groups and working with individuals.  I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist, and a Relationship Coach.

I have a lot of heart, and I can sometimes make you laugh.

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my specialty

I specialize in working with adult attachment, relational trauma, self-esteem-supporting individuals and couples in having fulfilling relationships that fuel the rest of their lives. 

Morning coffee, cuddles with my son + partner, omelettes, walks if there's time!

daily rituals

Guesting on podcasts, on coaching calls with my delightful clients, making dinner, dancing.


Deep breaths, Straight talk,short emails, and cutting out the fluff to make room for the very best.

I believe in:

I have been studying personal growth and transformation for over 20 years. I got my MA at Meridian University, and I'm a licensed Marriage Family Therapist with over 10 years of practice and 4000 hours of supervised training.  I am a level 2 PACT therapist, helping people understand the psychobiological aspects to our attachment. I am also trained in attachment based EMDR.

My Creds:

In my work I try to hold the balance of potent healing with levity and joy.  I try to keep myself and my clients in touch with the larger perspectives in life, and help us both stop and appreciate deep breaths and the hawks flying in the breeze.  I believe in the greatness that you are, the potency of creation that you are a part of and that works through you.

My superpower is giving people feedback about themselves in a way that is compassionate and actionable.

I believe that mental healthcare should be available to everyone, and that healthcare practitioners should get paid fairly for the work they put in.  To that end I always have free and low fee offerings for anything I teach, but also have ways to work more personally with me.  I believe that the societal impacts of the hustle on our psychology are way understated.  I believe that there is not shame in getting support, and that our individualized culture has hurt us deeply.

I strive to be truly helpful, and I hope to leave the planet with more love, laughter and grace than it had when I got here.

If I can, I will try to make you laugh, as laughter is a very important medicine for healing and I believe in balancing the tears with big snorting chuckles.  #middleagedhumor, #bringingtheheatbutinflashesnow

I'm a mix of California woo, with East Coast science and rational thinking, bringing both perspective and potential to my work.

the Ezra Klein show


Ethiopian food


Attached of course!


My morning coffee...still, in the afternoon


the Rings of Power



My Favorite Things

Traveling — Not a lot of it happening these days but Greece has a special place in my heart.

my happy place!

The Forrest! It's my zone of serenity where all of my best ideas happen.

Spending time with my son.  The road to motherhood was long and complicated, but we are blessed to have this little guy as part of our family!

Ori is my therapy dog.  She has been sitting in on sessions since she was 7 weeks old

My Favorite Things

My goofy partner of course! He keeps me laughing, and supports me with everything life holds.

My houseplants. Another part of my self care and practices, Misting and watering the plants of the house!

my self care

Traveling in our trailer! fixing up this Layton was one of our first projects together.










night owl

no topsheet




Where I stand on the super important stuff... Agree / disagree? 

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“Sefora has a knack for creating a space to let the material emerge and allow the client to come to their own answers..”


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