For Ambitious People Ready for Love That SHOWS 👏UP👏
Go From ANXIOUS
to SECURE
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It's time to Get Your Needs Met
You may have spent hours in therapy learning how one or more parents disappointed you, when all you really want is for a partner to show up for you now.
To have love that shows the F*** up?
Are you ready?
I'M SEFORA! A TRANSFORMATIONAL LEADER, THERAPIST AND ATTACHMENT COACH.
You're tired of second guessing yourself:
"Am I asking for too much?" , "Am I good enough for the kind of partner I want?",
"Am I destined to be alone in this life?"
I get it. Been there, bought the t-shirt.
Maybe when you were 19 it made sense to fantasize about an aloof, unavailable, and brooding heartthrob. But now that you’ve got a few *ahem* years behind you, and you are tired of this mess.
You're ready for a partner who SHOWs the F*** up.
Anxiously Attachment means you probably have a type that you chase, and let's be honest, you work extra hard to get the bare minimum amount of attention.
You get stuck in the same relationship relationship pattern again and again.....and again.
You probably would love to change this pattern ... but you have no idea how.
This relationship pattern started waaaaaay back. Usually with your parents. (But it could have also started with significant relationships or with losses you experienced).
And let me guess...
And usually, the pattern is:
pattern
(not like the cute pattern on your favorite dress)
>>> You over extend yourself to try to get your needs met...
THEN >>> You get disappointed, and/or furious at your date/spouse...
Followed by >>> You crying-on-the-floor in despair and shame ...
Followed by >>> You seeking re-assurance from your love interest, which pushes them away more.
Yeah…that kind of pattern.
1
2
3
4
(returning to being accommodating again)
DATING OR being IN RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE UNAVAILABLE
GIVING WAY MORE THAN YOU ARE GETTING
DOING ALL THE EMOTIONAL LABOR IN RELATIONSHIPS
You are tired of...
BEING SENSITIVE TO BEING ABANDONED
It can be *crazy* making.
Plus you are busy, and have a lot of other things on your mind. You have an active social life, a career you are furiously keeping up with, and when you think of "working on relationships" it just feels like a drag...
Oh love, the heartache is real.
You could spend 10 more years playing out the same tired, tormented love drama …
(It’s your turn, Penelope.👏👏👏)
… or you could start receiving more love now.
unfortunately
Imagine...
A partner who shows 👏 up👏.
Emotionally, Physically, and for all the life projects (whether it's cooking dinner or planning your next vacation)
FINALLY HAVING A SECURE AND MATURE RELATIONSHIP
(Where you don’t have to chase someone down to talk about your day ).
Waking up to a true team mate in life.
A partner in crime do-gooding.
Because one day you want to be sitting on a park bench, looking back on your life, at everything you created, feeling SO grateful for the person at your side who supported you along the way.
Research shows that negative relationships cause stress and strain on the body.
Healthy relationships on the other hand, can help emotional well being, prevent illness, support low blood pressure, decrease mortality.
Negative relationships may increase the risk of cardiovascular events, chronic disease and may cause early mortality. *yikes*
Toxic relationships can cause the body to spike in adrenaline and stay in fight-or-flight mode, which can lead to fatigue, a weak immune system, and even organ damage.
With over 2 decades studying relationship patterns and what makes them healthy, I’ve found (through trial and error) that understanding attachment is what moves the needle.
Ready for another stat?
Studies suggest that 30% of people change their attachment style over time. (For better or worse.)
So, if you want to be in a primary relationship ...
(and no one is saying that you need one, it’s 2024 after all)
Do your relationship choices pass the secure test?
You may have spent years in therapy,
Read a slew of books on improving relationships,
Studied non-violent communication models,
Sat in psychedelic circles purging your soul's trauma 🤮
Invested in a dating coach or even a couples therapist…
But have you learned how to create secure attachment, and how to sustain healthy, mature love?
Introducing the program
Introducing From Anxious to SECURE, the program that therapists trust (and use themselves). 6 weeks of uplifting and inspiring lessons that show you how to stop re-creating unhealthy relationships. So you can start having love and a partner that shows up.
Unlock SECURE ATTACHMENT
LEARN THE SECRETS OF SECURE ATTACHMENT, AND INCREASE YOUR YOUR CAPACITY TO BE SECURE.
From Anxious to SECURE
stop spinning out
QUICKLY STOP ANY SPINNING OUT TRIGGERED BY FEAR, DOUBT, ILLUSION, OLD
PROGRAMMING OR PRESENT CIRCUMSTANCE…
Get the support you need
FEEL TRULY SUPPORTED IN LIFE, CONNECTED AND UPLIFTED WITHOUT NEEDING TO DIM
OR DILUTE YOUR BIGGEST SELF.
identify securely attached people
CLEARLY IDENTIFY SECURELY ATTACHED PEOPLE AND KNOW HOW TO MAINTAIN
SUPPORTIVE SECURE RELATIONSHIPS ONCE YOU ARE IN THEM.
Love that Shows Up
From Anxious to SECURE
Love that Shows Uop
get on the waitlist now!
This program is the exact method I built for my clients with anxious attachment—
Who found that talk in therapy was not enough
(let’s be real, anxious attachers often talk a lot)
and they wanted to see change.
Weekly videos and audios that clarify and solidify secure attachment.
You'll walk away with:
From Anxious to Secure is made up of 6-modules of video trainings, 15 workbooks, visualization audios, personalized coaching, and a small, private confidence-building community of people JUST like you looking for
a partner that shows up, so they can get on to having their dream life.
Assignments that improve your busy daily life—and don't just add to it.
Audios that you can do on the go-- in the car, while cooking dinner, or on a walk. It’s portable and easy and makes learning this information so accessible and intimate.
A full resource library of tools to shift your relationships, no matter which unhealthy cycle you fall into, that you can tap into and revisit anytime you need a reset, shift in perspective, motivation or encouragement.
Attachment styles are not permanent. They are permeable and can shift depending on who we are in relationship and how we go about relating. In this program, I will show you how to change your relational template and reclaim your power to create fulfilling relationships!
Potent coaching calls that get down to brass tax and leave you uplifted, inspired and ready for love.
I'm Ready! When canI start?
Pop in your details and we'll get you on the waitlist. You will be the first to know when we open!
Wait, what exactly is in this program??
Here are the 5 parts that are featured throughout the course.
Glad you asked. Here is what you get.
Anxious Attachment Essentials
Discover everything that folks with anxious attachment must know to shift their attachment.
Including:
part 01
A video explaining why anxious attachment impacts getting your needs met, and how you reinforce insecure relationships unconsciously.
A video and exercises breaking down Secure Attachment, what it looks and feels like, so that you can rock relationships with secure confidence, and cultivate secure attachment with others.
A video on Avoidant Attachment, why your partners might have it, and how to help them show up in the ways you need.
Instant access to a 23 question Attachment Inventory that often creates huge insights for people right away.
Your Pitfall Parts
Everyone who has anxious attachment has behavioral patterns that sabotage relationships. We call them your pitfall parts.
Including:
part 02
12 worksheets with exercises and questions to help you understand how these pitfall parts are unconsciously driving your behavior.
Clear tips to stop creating the same unhealthy patterns over and over again.
4 videos on the 12 pitfall parts that unfortunately FU*** shit up in relationships.
Simple ways to meet the underlying needs that drive these behaviors, while also keeping healthy boundaries.
The good news:
Healing attachment means you get to receive more, not work more.
RE-SOURCING
When you are anxiously attached, it feels like there is not enough. Not enough support, not enough resources, not enough love, not enough help, not enough time...and on and on.
Including:
part 03
6 Worksheets that help you come back to your worth, how to live with a sense of okay-ness, and support your nervous system in relaaaaaaaxing.
Audios and visualisations that support you in Re-sourcing your power as a relationship creator, and live with the experience that life is on your side.
Learn practices that help you build presence and connection with your partner so you can keep the love flowing year after year.
6 videos with practical exercises on how to reset yourself and shift into receiving support.
The practices that allow you to receive support, come back to who you are, and feel ease in your relationships.
The resourcing audios, videos and practices in this program help you open up to the limitless support that is available to you.
UpGrade Your relationships
This program is packed with resources that help you level up in relationship.
We will look at your current beliefs and expectations around relationships, and upgrade them to secure ones, so you stop re-creating unhealthy patterns over and over.
Including:
part 04
A relationship inventory tool to release and let go of past relationships that have caused insecure attachment.
A tuning your compass process so that you are attracting and drawn to secure partners. (Ever feel like you are drawn to unhealthy people like a moth to the flame? Yeah...we will fix that).
20+ Practices for secure relating, so you can shift your way of showing up and be the person you want to be in relationship.
Simple exercises to help you set boundaries like a pro, so that you stay on course with what you want in relationship.
Your Secure Self
Do you want to finally bring a secure (and mature) partner to the yard?
Including:
part 05
Practical tips for dating, so that you can bring your most secure self forward (and identify folks that are not secure and mature.)
Explanations on what SECURE RELATIONSHIPS look like, so you can maintain them once you are committed to someone.
Audios to re-connect with your relationship power, so that you remember that you are a freaking bad ass, and your relationships get to reflect that.
My goto quick process to step out of victimhood & drama and switch to embodying wisdom in relationships.
Start tracking your secure attachment like a boss, see progress in your relationships (instead of spinning your wheels 🙄), and step into your secure self so the next time you talk to your bestie you’re sharing how relieved you are, not venting about Dan-the-disappointing-dude.
12 videos on Loving with Grace, stepping out of your sabotaging patterns and into confidence, ease and trust in relationships.
Personalized Coaching
get live support
relationship self audit
WEEKLY HOMEWORK TO MAKE PROGRESS.
Once a month I will do a group call for this program. One of the amazing things about healing is that you can actually heal through watching others heal. In the live group coaching, I will answer questions and give coaching to 1-4 people depending on the time. This is a safe place where everyone is working on their own self-love journey.
Most students find it powerful to learn that others are having similar struggles and hear the creative ways they are showing up for themselves amongst the chaos of their lives.
We can’t wait to connect and grow with you!
Practical Homework
Support yourself and your relationships with a unique way to score and audit your security in relationships. Use this tool to see how you and your partners grow towards secure functioning.
An Audit For your relationships
Feeling helpless about changing your relationships can be horrible. This course will support you with weekly assignments to put what you are learning into action. Go at your own pace, and download them so you can dive deeper when the time permits.
online community
Got questions about how to show up secure in a relationship or how to make your relationship more secure? I got you. You will have 3 months access to our our private (non-facebook), safe and supportive community. Post your questions and get a response within 1 business day.
Your Questions Answered
The Program Includes:
Sign Up
You know this part: You sign up for the program below and check out. You get an email to login to the program.
How does it work??
Wondering what it would look like when you sign up?
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Instant Access
You get instant access to the online resources: videos, worksheets, and audios to begin transforming your relationships.
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Start practicing now
Start integrating the practices, log onto the community and ask questions, lean in to get support.
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let's break it down ...
Wait there is more!
BONUS ITEMS BABY!
10+ extra coaching call videos
Get access to 10 extra recorded coaching sessions where I break down and help people shift their attachment style.
Dating Secure Starter Pack!
Ready to date with secure attachment? This is a bundle of my 7 best tools for attracting people who show up with secure attachment. FINALLY ATTRACT AND KEEP PEOPLE WHO ARE HEALTHY AND SUPPORTIVE, AND BREAK YOUR HABIT SETTLING FOR LESS NOW!
Love Them or Leave Them
Yes..unfortunately sometimes our relationships are on the rocks and we are trying to figure out whether we should keep going. Watch this masterclass to know what to do before throwing in the towel!
Get on the waitlist!
Sefora's expertise helped make this work not only interesting but also highly effective. I walked away from this course knowing more about myself and feeling prepared for a new, more intentional relationship.
Over the time of the course, I turned to the tools (resourcing) to help with regulation, and the map visioning exercise helped me call in a new relationship right as the course ended. And they meet all of the values I wanted in a new partner!
Irisanya
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what to expect
By the end of this program you will...
Understand why you keep creating the wrong relationship patterns.
Have practiced and articulated your boundaries.
Come back to your power to create the relationships you have always wanted.
Have practices to stay in your confidence and self worth.
Know exactly what you need in relationship to feel supported and loved
Understand Secure Functioning relationships and how to recognize them.
Have a clear map of how to get create secure and mature relationships.
Have a system for tracking your progress towards secure functioning.
Unlock the secure attachment that lives inside you, feel confident in recognizing who is behaving secure around you.
THE I'm-not-trying-to-punk-you, I really want you to get value, GUARANTEE
Money Back Guarantee
If you haven't met me in person, it is totally legitimate that you would wonder about my integrity. I created this course to create real change in people's lives, and to truly serve. With that in mind, try my program for 14 days. If you start my program and within 14 days you are dissatisfied you are eligible for a refund, no questions asked.
100%
MONEY BACK
GUARANTEE
So let's recap...Here's what you get in the program again:
From Anxious to SECURE
Love that Shows Up
From Anxious to SECURE
Love that Shows Uop
🧭 Tuning Your Compass Process($600 value)- Hold yourself accountable and ensure you’re dating and being in relationship with those showing secure attachment.
🧠 Anxious Attachment Essentials ($600 value)- unlock secure attachment with this comprehensive Core Curriculum.
🙋🏽 3 Monthly Coaching Calls ($450 value)-Join our Monthly Coaching Calls to receive personalized guidance, insights, and support on your path to secure attachment
📚 Bonus Calls ($1500 value)- In addition to the live calls monthly, you will have 10+ hours of bonus coaching call replays to deepen your understanding of attachment in action.
🔑 A Year’s access to all the course materials- You’ll get access to all of these resources and any of their future updates, for as long as they exist-which will be at least for a year. You will also receive any additional resources added to the curriculum in the future.
📕The From Anxious To Secure Workbooks ($200 value)- 250+pages of digital supplement to the course which breaks down each of the lessons into exercises you can use to really consolidate the learnings into actions that will supercharge your growth.
🏘️ The From Anxious To Secure Community ($200 value)- Access to our facebook community to post reflections, cheer each other on and get ongoing support.
🚀 The Re-source Yourself Toolbox ($1000 value)- Includes meditations, hypnosis, reflections and practices to support your secure attachment.
🌑 The Pitfall Parts Trainings ($600 value)-Dive deep into the exclusive Pitfall Parts Training, where you'll uncover and conquer the 12 common obstacles that hinder secure attachment and gain the tools to overcome them.
📚 Bonus Dating Secure Starter Pack ($357 value)-A bundle of my 7 best tools for attracting people who show up with secure attachment.
📚 Bonus Love Them Or Leave Them Masterclass ($200 value)- A recorded workshop to help you asses what to work on before ending your relationship.
📚 Private 30 Minute Coaching Session with Sefora ($200 value)
I'm Ready! When canI start?
Pop in your details and we'll get you on the waitlist. You will be the first to know when we open!
When is the right time to work on your attachment?
Healing attachment is like investing in retirement...
The best time to start was yesterday.
Second best time? Now.
S0....
Say Goodbye to unhealthy relationship patterns.
Go from Anxious to Secure and create love that shows up.
sign me up for the waitlist!
Real talk:
In an era of psychobable, social media pop-psychology, and a landscape where you can toss your hat and have it land on another “coach”, Sefora brings thousands of hours working as a therapist with couples, and 24 years of experience in the transformational industry.
Sefora has a Masters in Counseling Psychology, and is a licensed Marriage Family Therapist with over a decade of clinical work under her belt.
She knows how to explain attachment behavior in clear, you-can-take-action-with this-language, so that you can stop spending your time trying to get your needs met, and get back to planning your next blow your mind vacation.
There are a lot of people sharing about attachment styles these days. You may even have a dusty copy of "Attached" sitting on your shelf. How is this program different?
And Who is this again?
Hey there, I'm Sefora
24
reading my writing on anxious attachment
321,366
hours of clinical work
10k+
years as a therapist
14
years as a personal growth ninja
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LOVED BY MANY
with frustration at not managing things the way I want to. Your course materials are excellent and also really good broad ranging and yet right on target for what I need. I think 1 : 1 therapy is smaller and more focused. Our work together is proactive and covers more ground.
WITHOUT this course I would have Fewer strategies and insights, more plodding along
-Naava
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This for you if:
It's probably for you if...
IS
not
YOU'RE OVERWHELMED BY THIS thinking about your past
YOU'RE not willing to focus an hour of attention a week on this
you know you are not anxiously attached
YOU'RE motivated to create change
YOU enjoy getting clear practices for integration
YOU are coachable and want support
Got questions? I've got answers.
Both! Whether you are single or in a relationship, healing your attachment makes a huge difference.
Like anything in life, you will get out of this masterclass what you put into it. While I do offer a 14-day money-back guarantee, the results you get are up to you. I can promise that if you commit to the process and put in the work, you will see results.
You will have a year to access all sessions and course info following the completion of the course, and access to the bonus group coaching calls and facebook group for 3 months.
I want your experience to be interactive and personal, so we limit each group to a maximum of 20 participants. This gives you plenty of opportunities to ask questions and interact with one another.
Coaching is meant to support people who are able to be proactive for themselves. It is goal oriented and focused on practical steps and homework. In the group calls you will have the opportunity to have direct advice and feedback on how you are showing up with your attachment style. If you are someone who has trauma in your history and may need extra support, it will be important that you have support lined up before we start.
The insights you learn will definitely be share-worthy, but the activities in each class are tailored for the individuals in that specific group. In order for your friends to get the best results, we recommend they sign up to take the masterclass themselves.
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You're in the right place.
I was able to shift my attachment style and get into a secure relationship with a fantastic partner who was emotionally available and wanted a committed, connected relationship. I am happy to share EVERYTHING I learned that made a difference. Attachment styles are changeable, and there are things you can do.
This is not your first personal growth rodeo? Save time by getting instant access to the program therapists trust to work on their attachment styles!
I made this program for you, so you can save the years I lost. You're more amazing and lovable than you think you are. But if you're anything like me, you need help to get your relationships to reflect that. You just want someone to tell you what to do to get into those relationships.
But will this help me?
a note from sefora
I can't flood this page with their reviews, because they are private (another surprise), so you will just have to trust my word here, and check out my 14 day guarantee if you have concerns.
And therapists, as advanced as we may seem 🙄, also struggle with relationships sometimes (shocker). I have had a bunch of therapists do my program, and all found a lot of value in it even with their extensive training.
I made this program after being in the personal growth world for over 24 years... believe me, I tried a number of things before bringing this work to the public.
Lets get started!
From Anxious to SECURE
Love that Shows Uop
From Anxious to SECURE
Love that Shows Up
🧭 Tuning Your Compass Process($600 value)- Hold yourself accountable and ensure you’re dating and being in relationship with those showing secure attachment.
🧠 Anxious Attachment Essentials ($600 value)- unlock secure attachment with this comprehensive Core Curriculum.
🙋🏽 3 Monthly Coaching Calls ($450 value)-Join our Monthly Coaching Calls to receive personalized guidance, insights, and support on your path to secure attachment
📚 Bonus Calls ($1500 value)- In addition to the live calls monthly, you will have 10+ hours of bonus coaching call replays to deepen your understanding of attachment in action.
🔑 A Year’s access to all the course materials- You’ll get access to all of these resources and any of their future updates, for as long as they exist-which will be at least for a year. You will also receive any additional resources added to the curriculum in the future.
📕The From Anxious To Secure Workbooks ($200 value)- 250+pages of digital supplement to the course which breaks down each of the lessons into exercises you can use to really consolidate the learnings into actions that will supercharge your growth.
🏘️ The From Anxious To Secure Community ($200 value)- Access to our facebook community to post reflections, cheer each other on and get ongoing support.
🚀 The Re-source Yourself Toolbox ($1000 value)- Includes meditations, hypnosis, reflections and practices to support your secure attachment.
🌑 The Pitfall Parts Trainings ($600 value)-Dive deep into the exclusive Pitfall Parts Training, where you'll uncover and conquer the 12 common obstacles that hinder secure attachment and gain the tools to overcome them.
📚 Bonus Dating Secure Starter Pack ($357 value)-A bundle of my 7 best tools for attracting people who show up with secure attachment.
📚 Bonus Love Them Or Leave Them Masterclass ($200 value)- A recorded workshop to help you asses what to work on before ending your relationship.
📚 Private 30 Minute Coaching Session with Sefora ($200 value)
Sign me up!
Pop in your details and we'll get you on the waitlist. You will be the first to know when we open!
Many books will explain the origin of someone becoming anxiously attached, but they don't show HOW the person recreates this attachment over and over. There are very clear things you can do to change how you related in relationship. Shifting your attachment style, your relationship template, shifts your entire life.
how
This program shows you the to changing your attachment style
Raise your hand if you tend to be the over-doer, fixer, who tries all the things and manages all the emotional labor in a relationship?
But I've done so much work already...
Yeah, this program is about shifting all that.
Repeat after me:
"I can get my needs met by doing way less, receive 2x more, and relationships gets to be EASIER".
Being secure in relationship means that connecting gets to be easier, dating get's to be easier, speaking up for your needs get's to be easier.
The whole dang thing get's to be easier.
Your needs matter, and it's time to get them met.
Sign me up!