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In this article, we look at why your brain keeps thinking about your ex, how to stop ruminating about an ex, and a short exercise that can help.
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In this post, we explore five key signs of a healthy securely attached relationship.
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It may come as a relief to know that yes, you can absolutely change your attachment style. Unlike personality, attachment style is fluid: it changes for the better or for the worse depending on your relationships
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Struggling with an anxious attachment style while dating? Here are four practical strategies to help you better cope with your anxiety and build healthier relationships.
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You’re not crazy for wanting closeness—you just learned to chase it. This post unpacks why anxious attachers are magnetized to emotionally unavailable partners, how to break the chemistry of inconsistency, and what to look for instead in secure dating.
One of the women in my program recently entered a new relationship, and it has exceeded everything she thought was possible. The consistency. The presence. The honest communication. The emotional connection. The reliability. Everything she had hoped for—and more—was present in this relationship. But here’s the surprising part: he had been nearby all along. After […]
If you’re successful in your career, driven in your goals, and known as the person who gets things done, this might surprise you: The skills that make you wildly successful in life can completely sabotage your dating life. Yep. I said it. Because sometimes the harder you work at dating, the worse it gets. And […]
A meditation to create safe, supported partnership There’s a quiet belief many of us carry—often without realizing it: “I have to do this alone.” It can show up as independence, resilience, even strength. But beneath it, there’s often exhaustion. A nervous system that never fully rests. A longing to be supported… without knowing how to […]
Hello, my friend. Welcome back. I’m so glad you’re here. Before we dive in, I just want to pause and say thank you. I’ve been hearing from many of you—your messages, your reflections, your kind words about the podcast—and it truly means so much to me. Knowing this work is supporting you, reaching you, and […]
For many, envisioning a dream relationship can bring up feelings of sadness, frustration, or even hopelessness. Imagining the love you desire might make your current reality feel inadequate, or it may remind you of the times you’ve felt let down or rejected. These emotions can make it tempting to avoid the vision altogether, convincing yourself […]
Its spring and we’re taking steps to foster secure attachment. This is Part 1: Planting belief in creating secure relationships.
What if you knew that support was available to you all the time? Anytime you needed it? And what if you knew that even the most complicated, nuanced, specific, loving, support was available to you whenever you needed?
It may come as a relief to know that yes, you can absolutely change your attachment style. Unlike personality, attachment style is fluid: it changes for the better or for the worse depending on your relationships
Anxious attachment style can be disruptive to your relationships and life if not handled with care. Read how to recognize the signs of anxious attachment styles and how to find the right coping strategies.
Understanding your own and others’ attachment style can help you build better relationships! Read on to explore the different types of attachment styles people may have.
Are you looking for help with your Anxious Attachment? The good news is that your attachment style can change. Get ready to learn some secrets to become more securely attached.
Do you have a sense of how your diet and exercise contribute to your wellbeing and mood? Many of the clients that I see complaining of anxiety, depression, lethargy, or sleeplessness are surprised when I ask about their food and caffeine intake. It’s not that they don’t care what goes into their body, but […]
Are You Anxiously Attached? Here are some ways to know if you have an anxious attachment style.
Getting fired is a lot like going through a breakup. It can be devastating, relieving, shocking, really difficult, surprisingly easy or all of the above. It shakes your stability and your routine. If getting fired from your job is in the devastating category, here are a few tips: 1) Remember that getting fired is like […]
Often when I am working with my clients it is clear that one of the major reasons they are experiencing suffering is because they are having an Inner Critic Attack. This part of the self has lots of names. Traditionally known as the Super Ego; it also goes by the Judge, the Gatekeeper, the Critical […]
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I studied attachment work for 2 decades both personally and professionally. Changing your attachment style is possible. I'll be honest, it takes grit! But there are things that most people can learn that can improve their attachment in relationships. In my individual sessions and classes I create a safe space for growth and reflection, humor and insight, but not always in that order.
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I'm Sefora, your new get-a-grip relationship coach.
I have been a transformational leader and coach for over 20 years. I received my Masters in Counseling Psychology at Meridian University, and have over 10,000 hour of training and work with individuals and couples as a therapist. I am a level 2 PACT therapist for couples, trained in how psychobiology affects your relationships and how to create secure attachment. I am also trained in Attachment Focused EMDR.
"I was just like you. Struggling & desperate to have a supportive relationship"
