Transforming Hopelessness #2

Transforming Hopelessness

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I have been a transformational leader and coach for over 20 years. As a therapist, I am trained in how psychobiology affects your relationships and how to create secure attachment. I studied attachment work for 2 decades both personally and professionally. Changing your attachment style is possible. I'll be honest, it takes grit! But there are things that most people can learn that can improve their attachment in relationships. 

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“The doorway

To your creation

Is your wanting.

Desire gave birth

To the world.

 

Let yourself want my friend,

Each wish is a blessed

Treasure.

 

Let yourself want my friend,

The Earth longs

To hear your

Whisper.

 

Let yourself want my friend,

For your yearnings

Are not too big,

Not impossible

In the scope of all

That is.

 

Let yourself want my friend,

I promise it won’t break you

But bring you closer

To your

Greatest

Power. ”

-Sefora Janel Ray

 

Wanting.  Desire.  Longing.  It’s crazy how we can sometimes keep ourselves from really feeling what it is that we want.  I’ve noticed that with a lot of my clients, they are really clear on what upsets them, or what is not working, but they have no idea what they want.  And if they figure out what they want, they are not clear on what that would actually look like.  Knowing what it is that you want, and what that wanting looks like is an essential step to creating a satisfying life.  It is also a really important practice to having happy relationships.  So many couples know what they hate about what their partner is doing, but they haven’t identified what it is they want to experience with their partner.

Why aren’t we clear on what we want?  A lot of us have received messages in our lives that what we want isn’t possible, or that it is selfish to want.  Sometimes we are just in a habit of complaining.  And sometimes we just haven’t created the time to sit down and ask ourselves, “What do I want? What does that look like?”  I think that we often don’t realize the great creative power at our fingertips.  And the doorway of that power is our wanting.

So what is something you are struggling with right now?  What do you want?  What does your heart long for?  And what does that look like?  What does it feel like?

Revel in the power of your wanting!

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Real talk:

In an era of psychobable, social media pop-psychology, and a landscape where you can toss your hat and have it land on another “coach”, Sefora brings thousands of hours working as a therapist with couples, and 24 years of experience in the transformational industry.

Sefora has a Masters in Counseling Psychology, and is a licensed Marriage Family Therapist with over thirteen years of clinical work under her belt.

She knows how to explain attachment behavior in clear, you-can-take-action-with this-language, so that you can stop spending your time trying to get your needs met, and get back to planning your next blow your mind vacation.

There are a lot of people sharing about attachment styles these days.  You may even have a dusty copy of "Attached" sitting on your shelf.  How is Sefora different?

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