In this article, we look at why your brain keeps thinking about your ex, how to stop ruminating about an ex, and a short exercise that can help.
In this post, we explore five key signs of a healthy securely attached relationship.
Struggling with an anxious attachment style while dating? Here are four practical strategies to help you better cope with your anxiety and build healthier relationships.
When your partner is really making you angry, do you assume they want to upset you?
5 Ways To Help Avoidant Attachment and Create Security Now Knowing your attachment style, or how you relate to the people you love, can be incredibly helpful in romantic relationships. Attachment styles reflect how we were parented, and as most parents are fallible, our attachment styles aren’t always secure. Knowing your attachment style can help […]
Are You Anxiously Attached? Here are some ways to know if you have an anxious attachment style.
See if any of these scenarios feel familiar to you: You’re arguing with your partner and start to feel overwhelmed. Even though they’re asking you to stay, you need to get out of there. You leave and ignore your partner’s calls for several days. Your partner wants to snuggle up with you on […]
Many couples think that the best way to get through a conflict is to take space from each other to cool off. Unfortunately, taking space isn’t always an option. There are times when you need to make a quick decision, you’re stuck in the car together, or you are at an event where you can’t […]
Content versus connection Oftentimes when I’m working with clients, their central concern is a desire to discuss issues about work, money, children, or their sex life: aka content What couples often don’t understand is that it is very difficult to talk about any kind of content if you are not connected to each other. Trying […]
When your relationship is in strife it can feel like the world is falling apart. We can feel even more alone, hopeless and seperate than when we are single. However, when relationships are going well they can be the thing that bolster our lives and help us be our greatest selves. The Dynamic: There is […]
Sure you can Complete the hardest problem In the book And answer The trickiest equation. But can you Sit with yourself When you don’t Know the answer And love Your own company? Sure you can Finish all Of your business Faster Than the average Jo. But can you Feel the awkwardness Between you an another When […]
Getting fired is a lot like going through a breakup. It can be devastating, relieving, shocking, really difficult, surprisingly easy or all of the above. It shakes your stability and your routine. If getting fired from your job is in the devastating category, here are a few tips: 1) Remember that getting fired is like […]
Often when I am working with my clients it is clear that one of the major reasons they are experiencing suffering is because they are having an Inner Critic Attack. This part of the self has lots of names. Traditionally known as the Super Ego; it also goes by the Judge, the Gatekeeper, the Critical […]
Many of my clients come to me unsure about what they want to do with their careers. They do know that they want to make a difference in the world. But they are not sure what they want to do, and how they will support themselves doing that thing. Here are 20 Questions you can […]
Sitting in my office today with the midday sun streaming through the window, my eyes continue to be drawn to a small bouquet of white roses from the memorial service of my friend Luanne Blaich, held last night. Their beauty is a perfect reminder of the amazing opportunity that Luanne’s death has been for me and many […]
Sometimes when I am working with clients they feel hopeless because they have identified that there is something that they don’t know how to do. Sometimes this is a capacity that they haven’t learned (such as creating boundaries or sharing from their heart). In other cases it is a practical skill that was never taught […]
Are you looking to create the relationship and life that you love? Do you feel like you give so much that your own needs are not attended to? Looking for compassionate support to move through blocks in your life? As women, we can tend to give to others to the expense of our own needs. […]
Recently I did a series of interviews with people on the theme of transforming hopelessness. I had the pleasure of interviewing Tad Hargrave (www.marketingforhippies.com). In particular, he had some great things to say about hopelessness as it comes up in business marketing (his specialty). Tad is an amazing resource for conscious business owners who want […]
"I was just like you. Struggling & desperate to have a supportive relationship"
I'm Sefora, your new get-a-grip relationship coach.
I have been a transformational leader and coach for over 20 years. I received my Masters in Counseling Psychology at Meridian University, and have over 10,000 hour of training and work with individuals and couples as a therapist. I am a level 2 PACT therapist for couples, trained in how psychobiology affects your relationships and how to create secure attachment. I am also trained in Attachment Focused EMDR.
Transformational Leader, Therapist, Relationship Coach, Attachment Expert & Boss Mom
I studied attachment work for 2 decades both personally and professionally. Changing your attachment style is possible. I'll be honest, it takes grit! But there are things that most people can learn that can improve their attachment in relationships. In my individual sessions and classes I create a safe space for growth and reflection, humor and insight, but not always in that order.
I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist, #96387