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In this article, we look at why your brain keeps thinking about your ex, how to stop ruminating about an ex, and a short exercise that can help.
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In this post, we explore five key signs of a healthy securely attached relationship.
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It may come as a relief to know that yes, you can absolutely change your attachment style. Unlike personality, attachment style is fluid: it changes for the better or for the worse depending on your relationships
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Struggling with an anxious attachment style while dating? Here are four practical strategies to help you better cope with your anxiety and build healthier relationships.
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You’re not crazy for wanting closeness—you just learned to chase it. This post unpacks why anxious attachers are magnetized to emotionally unavailable partners, how to break the chemistry of inconsistency, and what to look for instead in secure dating.
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When gatherings or quiet nights alone stir old attachment wounds, resourcing yourself is essential. This piece shares simple ways to feel grounded, loved, and enough—no matter who shows up or doesn’t.
Unlocking the Power of Attachment Work: Transform Your Relationships and Life Hey there! This is Sefora Janel Ray, and welcome to the Resource Yourself —the place where you can find support to resource your biggest, brightest, and wisest self. So today, I want to talk about what’s so powerful about working on your attachment style […]
Let’s talk about resourcing yourself through heartbreak: What to look out for, how to ground yourself in love, and how to keep moving forward.
Its spring and we’re taking steps to foster secure attachment. This is Part 1: Planting belief in creating secure relationships.
Here are 4 ways to do spring cleaning in your relationships and support healthy attachment
Let’s say for a moment that you have decided you are ready to date, and find a partner that meets you in all the deepest ways, to create the love you know you deserve. And lets just say that you have done a ton of work on yourself already. You consider yourself to be a […]
In this article, we will explore five significant ways in which people pleasing can ruin the very connections we value. From crossing our own boundaries to compromising our emotional well-being, it’s essential to understand the detrimental impact of this behavior.
What if you knew that support was available to you all the time? Anytime you needed it? And what if you knew that even the most complicated, nuanced, specific, loving, support was available to you whenever you needed?
In this article, we look at why your brain keeps thinking about your ex, how to stop ruminating about an ex, and a short exercise that can help.
In this post, we explore five key signs of a healthy securely attached relationship.
It may come as a relief to know that yes, you can absolutely change your attachment style. Unlike personality, attachment style is fluid: it changes for the better or for the worse depending on your relationships
Anxious attachment style can be disruptive to your relationships and life if not handled with care. Read how to recognize the signs of anxious attachment styles and how to find the right coping strategies.
Understanding your own and others’ attachment style can help you build better relationships! Read on to explore the different types of attachment styles people may have.
Struggling with an anxious attachment style while dating? Here are four practical strategies to help you better cope with your anxiety and build healthier relationships.
You’re not crazy for wanting closeness—you just learned to chase it. This post unpacks why anxious attachers are magnetized to emotionally unavailable partners, how to break the chemistry of inconsistency, and what to look for instead in secure dating.
So you have decided you want to relationship but you don’t want to date people who are unavailable or avoidant. Here’s what to look for if you want to be with someone securely attached.
I studied attachment work for 2 decades both personally and professionally. Changing your attachment style is possible. I'll be honest, it takes grit! But there are things that most people can learn that can improve their attachment in relationships. In my individual sessions and classes I create a safe space for growth and reflection, humor and insight, but not always in that order.
I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist, #96387
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I'm Sefora, your new get-a-grip relationship coach.
I have been a transformational leader and coach for over 20 years. I received my Masters in Counseling Psychology at Meridian University, and have over 10,000 hour of training and work with individuals and couples as a therapist. I am a level 2 PACT therapist for couples, trained in how psychobiology affects your relationships and how to create secure attachment. I am also trained in Attachment Focused EMDR.
"I was just like you. Struggling & desperate to have a supportive relationship"
