Are you looking for help with your Anxious Attachment? The good news is that your attachment style can change. Get ready to learn some secrets to become more securely attached.

For my Gen Xers out there—do you remember watching Back to the Future and wishing you had your own DeLorean to glimpse the life you’re supposed to be living? To zip through time and see exactly where you end up, what choices worked, and what mistakes to avoid? Well, my friend, I have amazing news […]

Shadow work is a term you might have heard floating around in the realms of personal growth and psychology, but what does it really mean? More importantly, how can it transform your life and relationships? Let’s dive into this fascinating concept, explore how it supports secure attachment, and even uncover the hidden gems in your […]

Hey there, I want to take a moment to talk about something that’s been on my heart: the idea of permission to enjoy yourself. It’s so easy to get caught up in the daily grind—stress about work, the state of the world, or even what might happen years from now. Many of us carry beliefs […]

When it comes to personal growth, especially around attachment and relationships, one crucial question is: Who do you trust to guide you through the process? Whether you’re considering a therapist or a coach, making the right choice can significantly impact your progress and transformation. Let’s dive into what to look for when finding someone to […]

For many, envisioning a dream relationship can bring up feelings of sadness, frustration, or even hopelessness. Imagining the love you desire might make your current reality feel inadequate, or it may remind you of the times you’ve felt let down or rejected. These emotions can make it tempting to avoid the vision altogether, convincing yourself […]

When it comes to love and relationships, my path has been anything but straightforward. For over two decades, I found myself stuck in a pattern of dating emotionally unavailable men—men who couldn’t commit, who were “in a dating phase,” or who lived far away. No matter what I did, I kept recreating this dynamic, and […]

When an anxious attachment style meets an avoidant attachment style, the result can feel like an emotional tug-of-war. One partner reaches for closeness while the other withdraws, leaving both feeling misunderstood and unsatisfied. It’s a dynamic that can stir up frustration, hurt, and confusion—but it’s also one that makes a lot of sense when you peel back the layers.

If you find yourself in a push-pull relationship where one person is anxiously attached and the other is avoidant, you might be wondering, “Can this relationship work?” Short answer, Yes.

How to Make the Holidays Supportive and Joyful Okay, so this week, I have some tips on how to manage the holidays. How to set yourself up so that the holidays can be resourcing for you, supportive for you—whether you’re single or in a relationship. This post is here to support you in letting this […]

Unlocking the Power of Attachment Work: Transform Your Relationships and Life Hey there! This is Sefora Janel Ray, and welcome to the Resource Yourself —the place where you can find support to resource your biggest, brightest, and wisest self. So today, I want to talk about what’s so powerful about working on your attachment style […]

Let’s talk about resourcing yourself through heartbreak: What to look out for, how to ground yourself in love, and how to keep moving forward.

Its spring and we’re taking steps to foster secure attachment. This is Part 1: Planting belief in creating secure relationships.

Here are 4 ways to do spring cleaning in your relationships and support healthy attachment

Let’s say for a moment that you have decided you are ready to date, and find a partner that meets you in all the deepest ways, to create the love you know you deserve. And lets just say that you have done a ton of work on yourself already. You consider yourself to be a […]

In this article, we will explore five significant ways in which people pleasing can ruin the very connections we value. From crossing our own boundaries to compromising our emotional well-being, it’s essential to understand the detrimental impact of this behavior.

What if you knew that support was available to you all the time?  Anytime you needed it? And what if you knew that even the most complicated, nuanced, specific, loving, support was available to you whenever you needed?