I was talking with someone recently who was single, deeply intelligent, emotionally sophisticated, and genuinely incredible. And they shared something I hear often from high-functioning people in dating: “It feels impossible to meet someone who can actually show up for me.” What I told them is something I want to tell you too: There are […]

A meditation to create safe, supported partnership There’s a quiet belief many of us carry—often without realizing it: “I have to do this alone.” It can show up as independence, resilience, even strength. But beneath it, there’s often exhaustion. A nervous system that never fully rests. A longing to be supported… without knowing how to […]

Hey there, and welcome to the Resource Yourself Podcast—the show that supports you in resourcing your biggest, brightest, and wisest self so you can show up and create in the world. Whether you’re creating relationships, building a life you love, or contributing to the world in a meaningful way, this space is here to ground […]

Hello, my friend. Welcome back. I’m so glad you’re here. Before we dive in, I just want to pause and say thank you. I’ve been hearing from many of you—your messages, your reflections, your kind words about the podcast—and it truly means so much to me. Knowing this work is supporting you, reaching you, and […]

Hey there, I’m Sefora. And if you’re new here—welcome to my corner of the universe. This is the Resource Yourself Podcast, a space where I’m here to ground you in the goodness of life so you can create everything you’re dreaming of—whether that’s love, meaningful relationships, healing the planet, or supporting your family. Today feels […]

Securely attached people don’t just behave differently in relationships. They date differently too. They move through dating with a completely different set of expectations. Not affirmations. Not strategies. But quiet assumptions about what love is like and what is available to them. Those expectations change everything. They change who you choose.They change what you tolerate.They […]

Lately, a lot of people have been reaching out to me with a very similar question. Different stories.Different relationships.Same ache. “How do I break a pattern with someone who hasn’t been showing up for me… even when I know better?” So today, I want to share part of a Dear Abby–style response (shared with permission […]

When it comes to personal growth, especially around attachment and relationships, one crucial question is: Who do you trust to guide you through the process? Whether you’re considering a therapist or a coach, making the right choice can significantly impact your progress and transformation. Let’s dive into what to look for when finding someone to […]

When an anxious attachment style meets an avoidant attachment style, the result can feel like an emotional tug-of-war. One partner reaches for closeness while the other withdraws, leaving both feeling misunderstood and unsatisfied. It’s a dynamic that can stir up frustration, hurt, and confusion—but it’s also one that makes a lot of sense when you peel back the layers.

If you find yourself in a push-pull relationship where one person is anxiously attached and the other is avoidant, you might be wondering, “Can this relationship work?” Short answer, Yes.

Its spring and we’re taking steps to foster secure attachment. This is Part 1: Planting belief in creating secure relationships.

What if you knew that support was available to you all the time?  Anytime you needed it? And what if you knew that even the most complicated, nuanced, specific, loving, support was available to you whenever you needed?

Understanding your own and others’ attachment style can help you build better relationships! Read on to explore the different types of attachment styles people may have.

Struggling with an anxious attachment style while dating? Here are four practical strategies to help you better cope with your anxiety and build healthier relationships.

I had no idea when I took the PACT training to become a couples therapist that it would affect my personal life so dramatically. I can confidently say now that the reason I’m in a secure relationship is because I took the PACT training and learned how my attachment style affected my dating life. Through […]