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But Can You Be Your Own Best Friend?

Sure you can Complete the hardest problem In the book And answer The trickiest equation. But can you Sit with yourself When you don’t Know the answer And love Your own company? Sure you can Finish all Of your business Faster Than the average Jo. But can you Feel the awkwardness Between you an another When […]

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I have been a transformational leader and coach for over 20 years. As a therapist, I am trained in how psychobiology affects your relationships and how to create secure attachment. I studied attachment work for 2 decades both personally and professionally. Changing your attachment style is possible. I'll be honest, it takes grit! But there are things that most people can learn that can improve their attachment in relationships.

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Sure you can
Complete the hardest problem
In the book
And answer
The trickiest equation.

But can you
Sit with yourself
When you don’t
Know the answer
And love
Your own company?

Sure you can
Finish all
Of your business
Faster
Than the average Jo.

But can you
Feel the awkwardness
Between you an another
When they cry
And not run away?

Sure you can
Make money
In the market
With some clever
New passing phase.

But can you
Be truly kind
To yourself
When you fail
At something
You long to achieve?

Sure,
You can impress
Me and him, and them over there,
You can make us laugh
And wow us with your charm.

But can you
When faced with your most
Loathing, embarrassing, snotty faced, bare naked self
Be your own best Friend?
Can you speak to yourself
In such a way
That lifts your face to the sky?
That honors your humanity?
Can you bring love and real acceptance
To your most
Vulnerable parts?

Because when you do this
You will know
Deep in your bones
That you
Can truly
Do anything.

-Sefora

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A 6 week course designed so that you can do the work of shifting your attachment style from anxious to secure. This course includes educational videos, lead visualizations, homework assignments to support you along the way, and a community of supportive folks working to practice secure attachment.

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I'm Sefora, your new get-a-grip relationship coach.

I have been a transformational leader and coach for over 20 years. I received my Masters in Counseling Psychology at Meridian University, and have over 10,000 hour of training and work with individuals and couples as a therapist. I am a level 2 PACT therapist for couples, trained in how psychobiology affects your relationships and how to create secure attachment. I am also trained in Attachment Focused EMDR.

Hey there!

I studied attachment work for 2 decades both personally and professionally. Changing your attachment style is possible. I'll be honest, it takes grit! But there are things that most people can learn that can improve their attachment in relationships. In my individual sessions and classes I create a safe space for growth and reflection, humor and insight, but not always in that order.

I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist, #96387