Stop thinking about your Ex! Breaking Free from the Mental Loop

In this article, we look at why your brain keeps thinking about your ex, how to stop ruminating about an ex, and a short exercise that can help.

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5 Signs of a Healthy, Securely Attached Relationship

In this post, we explore five key signs of a healthy securely attached relationship.

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Can You Change Your Attachment Style?

It may come as a relief to know that yes, you can absolutely change your attachment style. Unlike personality, attachment style is fluid: it changes for the better or for the worse depending on your relationships

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4 Strategies for Coping With Anxious Attachment Styles While Dating

Struggling with an anxious attachment style while dating? Here are four practical strategies to help you better cope with your anxiety and build healthier relationships.

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How Do I Stop Dating Unavailable People (Men)?

Do you find yourself, time after time, dating people who just aren’t that into you? Here are 3 things you can do right now to put a stop to it.

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Relationship issues

Can You Change Your Attachment Style?

It may come as a relief to know that yes, you can absolutely change your attachment style. Unlike personality, attachment style is fluid: it changes for the better or for the worse depending on your relationships

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Relationship issues

Understanding Anxious Attachment Style – How to Cope

Anxious attachment style can be disruptive to your relationships and life if not handled with care. Read how to recognize the signs of anxious attachment styles and how to find the right coping strategies.

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Attachment

5 Ways to Help Anxious Attachment and Love More Securely

Are you looking for help with your Anxious Attachment? The good news is that your attachment style can change. Get ready to learn some secrets to become more securely attached.

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Tips for Relationships

Avoid This Mistake Made by Most Divorced Couples

  Pitching the idea of going to couples counseling to your partner is uncomfortable, to be sure, maybe even scary. It can be difficult to address getting counseling because, once the fight is over, you don’t want to rock the precarious boat that finally feels somewhat okay. Maybe you don’t think couples counseling will help […]

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Thriving

Is Your Diet Making You Depressed? How Food Helps Dictate Your Wellbeing

  Do you have a sense of how your diet and exercise contribute to your wellbeing and mood? Many of the clients that I see complaining of anxiety, depression, lethargy, or sleeplessness are surprised when I ask about their food and caffeine intake. It’s not that they don’t care what goes into their body, but […]

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Attachment

5 Ways To Help Avoidant Attachment and Create Security Now

5 Ways To Help Avoidant Attachment and Create Security Now Knowing your attachment style, or how you relate to the people you love, can be incredibly helpful in romantic relationships. Attachment styles reflect how we were parented, and as most parents are fallible, our attachment styles aren’t always secure. Knowing your attachment style can help […]

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Attachment

Your Guide to knowing everything about Anxious Attachment and how to Heal it.

Are You Anxiously Attached? Here are some ways to know if you have an anxious attachment style.

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Tips for Relationships

Are You An Avoidant Attacher?

See if any of these scenarios feel familiar to you:   You’re arguing with your partner and start to feel overwhelmed. Even though they’re asking you to stay, you need to get out of there. You leave and ignore your partner’s calls for several days.   Your partner wants to snuggle up with you on […]

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Tips for Relationships

It’s Not About the Content

Content versus connection Oftentimes when I’m working with clients, their central concern is a desire to discuss issues about work, money, children, or their sex life: aka content What couples often don’t understand is that it is very difficult to talk about any kind of content if you are not connected to each other. Trying […]

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Transforming Hopelessness

5 Ways to Determine You Are Under an Inner Critic Attack

Often when I am working with my clients it is clear that one of the major reasons they are experiencing suffering is because they are having an Inner Critic Attack. This part of the self has lots of names.  Traditionally known as the Super Ego; it also goes by the Judge, the Gatekeeper, the Critical […]

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I'm Sefora, your new get-a-grip relationship coach.
I have been a transformational leader and coach for over 20 years. I received my Masters in Counseling Psychology at Meridian University, and have over 10,000 hour of training and work with individuals and couples as a therapist. I am a level 2 PACT therapist for couples, trained in how psychobiology affects your relationships and how to create secure attachment. I am also trained in Attachment Focused EMDR. 





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Transformational Leader, Therapist, Relationship Coach, Attachment Expert & Boss Mom

I studied attachment work for 2 decades both personally and professionally. Changing your attachment style is possible. I'll be honest, it takes grit! But there are things that most people can learn that can improve their attachment in relationships. In my individual sessions and classes I create a safe space for growth and reflection, humor and insight, but not always in that order.

I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist, #96387