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5 Ways To Help Avoidant Attachment and Create Security Now

2018-05-23T02:19:42+00:00

5 Ways To Help Avoidant Attachment and Create Security Now Knowing your attachment style, or how you relate to the people you love, can be incredibly helpful in romantic relationships. Attachment styles reflect how we were parented, and as most parents are fallible, our attachment styles aren't always secure. Avoidant attachment is one of these styles.  If you’re an avoidant attacher, you probably learned from your parents/caregivers that reaching out for comfort when you were upset or in pain would lead to rejection. Or, it’s possible that the help you received was not actually supportive. You learned very young how to [...]

5 Ways To Help Avoidant Attachment and Create Security Now2018-05-23T02:19:42+00:00

Are You An Avoidant Attacher?

2018-04-13T19:38:54+00:00

See if any of these scenarios feel familiar to you:   You’re arguing with your partner and start to feel overwhelmed. Even though they’re asking you to stay, you need to get out of there. You leave and ignore your partner’s calls for several days.   Your partner wants to snuggle up with you on the couch, but you start to feel annoyed and angry with their clingy and needy behavior.   You seem to be the one who is “logical” in your relationship, and your partner seems to always want to talk about feelings and emotions.   You had an [...]

Are You An Avoidant Attacher?2018-04-13T19:38:54+00:00

Is Your Diet Making You Depressed? How Food Helps Dictate Your Wellbeing

2018-03-30T08:56:12+00:00

  Do you have a sense of how your diet and exercise contribute to your wellbeing and mood? Many of the clients that I see complaining of anxiety, depression, lethargy, or sleeplessness are surprised when I ask about their food and caffeine intake. It’s not that they don’t care what goes into their body, but oftentimes they’re unaware of how what they eat and drink is affecting their system. A therapist friend of mine was having low level anxiety in the morning that got so bad on BART one day that she had to get off the train and get some [...]

Is Your Diet Making You Depressed? How Food Helps Dictate Your Wellbeing2018-03-30T08:56:12+00:00

5 Ways to Determine You Are Under an Inner Critic Attack

2017-09-07T17:58:42+00:00

Often when I am working with my clients it is clear that one of the major reasons they are experiencing suffering is because they are having an Inner Critic Attack. This part of the self has lots of names.  Traditionally known as the Super Ego; it also goes by the Judge, the Gatekeeper, the Critical Parent and many other names. In other words, the Inner Critic is a part of the self that is attacking another part of the self.  Now, normally we don't walk around experiencing ourselves as having different parts. If we have a fairly healthy ego, we just [...]

5 Ways to Determine You Are Under an Inner Critic Attack2017-09-07T17:58:42+00:00

Transforming Hopelessness #1

2011-08-17T18:27:35+00:00

Hopelessness—it hits most of us, one time or another. Sometimes I feel like most of my clients are trying to convince me that some part of their lives is hopeless.  They have all kinds of reasons that they can't have the relationship, the career, the health, the money or the peace that they want.  At the same time, a part of them desperately wants to know that it is actually not hopeless after all.  It's like a clash of the two movies "Reality Bites" and "Field of Dreams".  One part of them is despondent and depressed, and the other part is hoping beyond [...]

Transforming Hopelessness #12011-08-17T18:27:35+00:00