Ready to only date folks who show up for you + weed out anyone who is not emotionally available right away??
🎉 Understand Secure attachment, and how it can help you create mature supportive relationships.
🎉 Know which of your dates are available and ready for a relationship!
🎉 Feel confident and secure when dating.
🎉 Get clear on your boundaries with dating.
🎉 Know what to question to ask on dates to attract the right people.
🎉 Be decisive with who you will date and who you will not.
And so much more....
You've heard about secure attachment and you know that you want more of it, or at least you think you do.........but what does secure attachment really mean?? Fear not, we will break it down, help you understand what makes a relationship secure, and show you what to look for when you are dating.
Want an easy way to check off aspects of secure attachment when you're dating? I gottchu. Use my secure attachment checklist to reference with your dates and keep yourself accountable for getting what you need in relationship.
Have you been overriding your intuition when dating? There are so many clues our heart and body give us when dating that show up if we just slow down enough to notice them. Use this assessment to listen to your self more when dating.
But what do you ask your date to find out their attachment? Use these questions to filter out the fools from the gold. Mix these questions into your normal "get to know you" routine and you will trust your dating process more and more.
You may have been working on your own secure attachment for a while now, or maybe you just started. Either way, use this calculator to determine what aspects of secure attachment to work more on and track your progress!!
Let's be honest, it's easier to make the decision to have one drink if you do it before you walk into a restaurant than mid rosé. Clarifying your relationship deal breakers before crushing out on someone will help you stay aligned with your relationship goals, and snag the relationship that's truly right for you.
Go into your dates with calm and confidence with this meditation/visualization. Whether it's the night before or the same day, use this meditation to connect with your strength and walk into your dates knowing your value.
Dating without understanding secure attachment is like entering a high-stakes poker game without knowing the rules, risking your whole heart, and not having any strategy. It's not a surprise that so many of us get burned in love!!!!! You can feel defeated and lost, sure that you don't want to make the same mistakes again but completely lost on how to play the game right.
Look, the thing is that around 50% of the population is securely attached. Which means it's not as hard as you might think to find people who know how to be in healthy relationships...if you know what to look for. If I could turn back time and offer myself all of these tools I would, believe me. The best I can do is to offer them to you so you don't waste years of your life dating the wrong people.
"I was just like you. Struggling & desperate to have a supportive relationship"
I'm Sefora, your new get-a-grip relationship coach.
I have been a transformational leader and coach for over 20 years. I received my Masters in Counseling Psychology at Meridian University, and have over 10,000 hour of training and work with individuals and couples as a therapist. I am a level 2 PACT therapist for couples, trained in how psychobiology affects your relationships and how to create secure attachment. I am also trained in Attachment Focused EMDR.
I studied attachment work for 2 decades both personally and professionally. Changing your attachment style is possible. I'll be honest, it takes grit! But there are things that most people can learn that can improve their attachment in relationships. In my individual sessions and classes I create a safe space for growth and reflection, humor and insight, but not always in that order.
I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist, #96387
"I have worked with Sefora several times over the last many years, and have always left the sessions feeling more clear, less stuck, and able to approach my healing with a new perspective. Her approach is direct and compassionate, and she is highly creative and fun to work with. Her years of counseling training allow her to offer a wide range of therapeutic modalities with ease and curiosity. I would highly recommend Sefora to anyone who is looking for guidance and skilled counseling.
"Sefora was such a blessing to us! We got through so much crap that I’m not sure we could’ve overcame without her help. She is clever, has a good sense of humor, warm, personable, incredibly smart, inquisitive, and has a way of being soothing when a lot of difficult emotions are being brought up, yet encourages you to get words out when it would be easier to sweep them under the rug."
For the cost of one dinner date you could support yourself with tools that can change your experience of dating entirely....
Understand Secure Attachment
Secure Attachment Checklist
Secure Attachment Calculator
Clarify Deal Breakers
Post Date Self-Assessment
Plus the Calm and Confident Meditation
Questions to Ask Your Date
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I can tell you are thorough and thoughtful about what you need to support yourself, and I respect that.
Honestly, it's not that this is a magic bullet, it's not going to magically create that perfect person. What it can do, however, is really shift how you approach dating, your perspective on what to look for, and give you the confidence to make good decisions for yourself. I have tried to make it as affordable as possible, so grab this pack now while you can!