If you are tired of attracting emotionally unavailable partners, second-guessing your instincts, or wondering why dating feels harder than it should, this intensive will help you:
✔ Fill your dating funnel with aligned opportunities
✔ Filter for secure attachment from the beginning
✔ Stay in the flow instead of chasing or over-functioning
✔ Remain regulated and resourced throughout the dating process
Dating Secure:
A 4-WEEK LIVE INTENSIVE FOR FINDING, FILTERING & CHOOSING SECURE PARTNERS
June 10 - July 1, 2026
Live Wednesdays at 5PM
LOVED BY MANY
If only it was that easy. But what often happens is that you focus on all that other stuff (and maybe have some fun while you're at it) but your romantic life just goes dormant.
Yeah....I feel you.
The lie that even well meaning folks like to give.
Or maybe someone said "Focus on what brings you joy and everything else will just fall into place" ??
DIFFERENT PERSON. SAME DYNAMIC.
But somehow... it keeps ending the same way...
So you keep looking. Or give up for a while. You might half heartedly swipe on the apps, hoping the next person will be different.
You think the problem is: Maybe you've missed it. Maybe it will happen once you've more healed.
Maybe it just hasn't happened yet.
You think the problem is: Maybe you need to be in a different city.
A different circle.
A different stage of life.
You think the problem is: People aren't serious. No one knows how to show up. Emotionally available partners are hard to find.
your timing.
your environment.
the dating pool.
And then when you try dating...
Let me guess:
You fall too fast for someone
You meet someone, and like them a lot, but by the time you figure out that the person isn't actually right for you....
You've already fallen for them. You over analyze your interactions with them, go over conversations in your head again and again.
Then the relationship ends and you feel devestated. Besides being sad, You are discouraged because you are not able to trust your own knowing, YOU JUST CAN'T TELL IF SOMEONE IS RIGHT FOR YOU.
You are attracted to people who don't show up emotionally
When you like someone, you are good at finding out everything about them, you invest in them, pay attention to their needs, and are a loving and supportive as a partner.
But that love is just never returned.
You don't feel matched, and worse than that, often they are not even paying attention to you.
They're busy with work, their friends or checking the latest crypto trades on their phone.
You end up being more advanced,
or more ready
You put time and energy into working on yourself.
Whether it's yoga, therapy, personal growth, communication skills etc.
But your partners are rarely as dedicated to their growth as you.
You end upbeing their teacher, or frusterated that they are not able to meet you.
Then SOMEHOW, it all becomes a story about how you are TOO NEEDY or that your standards are too high?
Do you have a type?
Our brains have been wired to be attracted to folks who are not showing up.
That's what's familiar.
Attracted to the aloof, wounded, pushes-you-away when-you-want-to-get-close type?
Look, for some of us, we have been programed not only by our families, our long term relationships, but by hours of watching swoon worthy, distant and unatainable heart throbs.
And maybe it's been happeing for a long time
Jordan Catalono, Dylan McKay, Ron Johnson, Jonny Dep anyone?
But you are tired of
You still haven't met someone who is a match - and you feel like you are missing out on your life. Maybe you want to have a family, dream of traveling the world with a partner, or want a team mate to start a sanctuary for injured dogs.
A) Meeting people who you are not attracted to
B) Meeting people you like but who don't commit
C) Waisting time
No matter how hard you try...therapy, online dating, being set up...
The Worst Part?
You have dreams, and you don't want to put them on hold.
I struggled for years trying to find a partner that was a match for me, and no matter what I did, I kept being drawn back to unavailable people like a moth to the flame.
I have a Masters in Counseling Psychology, I'm a licensed Marriage Family Therapist with over a decade of clinical work under my belt, and 20 years of work as a transformational leader.
I know how to explain attachment behavior in clear, you-can-take-action-with this-language, so that you can stop spending your time trying to get your needs met, and get back to planning your next blow your mind vacation.
But then I studied attachment in couples, sitting with them for thousands of hours. I learned how to help people shift their relationship templates so that they can attract and keep secure healthy relationships.
YES! Sign me up
Unconsciously attracting people who are unhealthy for you.
Worrying about people who don't return your level of care and support.
Feeling like there are only a small amount of opportunities to meet quality people.
Stop letting the cycle repeat over and over again.
Go From
Being Attracted to, and attracting people who are Secure and Mature. Trust yourself and your power to create relationships that work for you.
Go from
Choosing people who are able to meet you, and letting go of folks who are not.
Go from
Feeling confident that there are lots of people that are secure, mature and available.
the catch.....
The good news is that 30% of people change their attachment style over time...
That change can be for better...
or for worse.
YES! I'm ready to STOP spinning my wheels in frustrating relationship patterns. I'm thrilled to uncover the roadmap to attracting secure, loving partners easily!
YES! Sign me up
Here's the
I'm bringing together a group of people who are ready to stop overthinking dating and start approaching it from a place of confidence, clarity, and self-trust.
Over four weeks, you'll learn how to fill your dating funnel, identify secure partners, stay in the flow, and become your own source of security—so dating feels less exhausting and a whole lot more enjoyable.
We'll combine live training, coaching, community support, and practical tools to help you date with greater ease and choose relationships that are healthy, mutual, and secure.
It's like wanting to go to a city, but you don't have the map to get there, and your navigation system is outdated, sending you to the wrong people.
In order to get into a secure and mature relationship, you have to understand the destination.
They don't know how to identify securely attached people, and they really don't know how to find them.
Many people with insecure attachment, have NO IDEA how to get into a relationship with a secure and mature partner.
in the 6 weeks together you will:
week 01
The first thing we will do is help you understand what a secure and mature partners look like. We will also dial in how you speak to secure folks, that has them respond, where to be hanging out, and fill your dating funnel with great singles.
STRATEGIES TO ATTRACT SECURE, MATURE PARTNERS:
STOP WASTING TIME WITH THE WRONG PEOPLE:
This week you'll learn how to identify secure attachment and screen effectively from the very beginning. We'll explore the green flags, yellow flags, and red flags that reveal whether someone is truly available for a healthy relationship. You'll leave with greater clarity, stronger standards, and the ability to stop second-guessing yourself so you can choose partners who are aligned, consistent, and emotionally available.
week 02
FILTER FOR SECURE ATTACHMENT
Imagine you're wandering through a beautiful city on vacation. You're not obsessing over the map, second-guessing every turn, or worrying about whether you're doing it right. You're present. Curious. Open to what the day might bring. This week you'll learn how to bring that same energy into dating—releasing urgency, trusting yourself, and allowing connection to unfold naturally.
This week is about falling in love with the journey. Because secure dating isn't about chasing a destination—it's about learning to trust yourself while life unfolds in your favor.
week 03
STAY IN THE FLOW:
DATE WITHOUT CHASING,
FORCING OR OVERTHINKING
The most attractive quality isn't perfection—it's security. Learn how to stay grounded, connected to yourself, and emotionally resourced so you can show up to dating with confidence and ease.
The real catch is someone who doesn't abandon themselves.
week 04
BECOME THE CATCH, Be in LOVE:
YES! Sign me up
This is what we’re up to. And I’d love to have you join us.
But what I’m MOST excited about is the part of our training where I guide you to connect back to your power, so you know how to source love over and over again.
- Wednesday, June 10 at 5 PM
- Wednesday, June 17 at 5 PM
- Wednesday, June 24 at 5 PM
- Wednesday, July 1 at 5 PM
Plus You'll Receive:
✅ One month inside The Secure Love Incubator
✅ Access to up to 3 live coaching calls per week
✅ Bonus trainings, tools, and resources
✅ New resourcing audio drops throughout the month
Can't Attend Live?
No problem.
All sessions will be recorded and available for replay, so you can participate even if you miss a call.
This isn't just a course you'll watch alone.
You'll have live teaching, coaching, community support, and practical tools to help you apply what you're learning in real time—so you can date with greater confidence, clarity, and security.
Live Sessions:
date/times etc.
BONUS ITEMS BABY!
Wait there is more!
The Secure Dating Roadmap
Value: $97
One Month Inside The Secure Love Incubator
Value: $550
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Get instant access to my Secure Dating Starter Pack so you can begin implementing secure dating principles right away.
This practical toolkit will help you clarify what you're looking for, identify secure partners, strengthen your standards, and approach dating with greater confidence and self-trust.
Bonus #2
You won't be doing this alone.
Along with the 4-week intensive, you'll receive a full month inside The Secure Love Incubator, including access to up to 3 live coaching calls each week.
Bring your dating questions, get support around attachment triggers, receive feedback on your situations, and get coached as you put everything you're learning into practice.
Bonus #1
Receive new guided audio resources throughout the month to support confidence, regulation, self-worth, and secure attachment.
Everything you need to date with greater confidence, clarity, and security—in one place.
Exclusive Resourcing Audio Drops
Value: $350
Access previous Dating Secure teachings, exercises, and resources for additional support and learning.
Archived Dating Secure Course (2024)
Value: $997
A practical tool to help you evaluate compatibility and attachment dynamics with greater clarity.
Dating Secure Calculator
Discover how attachment patterns influence communication, confidence, boundaries, and professional relationships.
How Attachment Impacts Work Relationships
Value: $150
Learn how to interrupt downward spirals and create upward momentum when dating feels discouraging or activating.
Spiralling Up Workshop
Value: $150
A foundational training on secure dating, partner selection, and healthy relationship dynamic
Dating Secure Masterclass
Value: $97
When you join Dating Secure, you'll also receive immediate access to a collection of trainings, tools, and resources designed to support your dating journey from every angle.
"WITHOUT Sefora I would have Fewer strategies and insights, more plodding
insights, more plodding along with frustration at not managing things the way I want to. The course materials are excellent and also really good broad ranging and yet right on target for what I need."
naava.
“Sefora has a knack for creating a space to let the material emerge and allow the client to come to their own answers."
Rachel.
"This course was wonderful! It has made me not feel alone and given me strength and confidence and who I am."
-private client
"I thought both Sefora and the course were terrific!
The biggest thing I got was learning how to re-source myself and be emotionally healthy/independent; enforcing my boundaries more; listening to my intuition more; and learning about securely attached thinking patterns and behaviors."
Noeline.
Sefora IS the real deal!
The personal ad that I created with Sefora’s help, worked some serious magic. Sefora helped me clarify my vision for what I was attracting. And she gave me full permission to put all of my witchiness and authenticity out there, through the language and photos. When my person read the ad, she felt like I was speaking directly to her, and that I was looking directly at her in my photos.
PR, therapist
"Sefora's course is honestly
The best I have ever taken!!! And I mean it."
Seraphina, Naturopath
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WITHOUT Sefora I would have Fewer strategies and insights, more plodding
insights, more plodding
along with frustration at not managing things the way I want to. The course materials are excellent and also really good broad ranging and yet right on target for what I need."
— naava
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Sefora IS the real deal!
The personal ad that I created with Sefora’s help, worked some serious magic. Sefora helped me clarify my vision for what I was attracting. And she gave me full permission to put all of my witchiness and authenticity out there, through the language and photos. When my person read the ad, she felt like I was speaking directly to her, and that I was looking directly at her in my photos.
- pr, therapist
Sefora’s knowledge and approach to attachment styles is spot on.
Her courses have been transformative for me. 💫”
Your investment:
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4 payments of $55
One time investment of $197
Got questions? I've got answers.
Is this program relevant to me if I meet someone while it’s happening?
Yes, it’s super common for people to meet someone during the program! You will still get a ton of value, and it will help you to establish a secure relationship!
Are my results guaranteed?
Like anything in life, you will get out of this masterclass what you put into it. While I do offer a 7-day money-back guarantee, the results you get are up to you. I can promise that if you commit to the process and put in the work, you will see results.
How long can I access the course online?
You will have a year to access all sessions and course info following the completion of the course, and access to the bonus group coaching calls and facebook group for 3 months.
How many people will be in the group coaching sessions?
I want your experience to be interactive and personal, so we limit each group to a maximum of 20 participants. This gives you plenty of opportunities to ask questions and interact with one another.
How is this different from group therapy?
Coaching is meant to support people who are able to be proactive for themselves. It is goal oriented and focused on practical steps and homework. In the group calls you will have the opportunity to have direct advice and feedback on how you are showing up with your attachment style. If you are someone who has trauma in your history and may need extra support, it will be important that you have support lined up before we start.
What’s the investment for Dating Secure?
The Dating Secure live group program, with the group coaching and access to community is available to you at an early bird discount of $197.
If cash flow is tight, you’re welcome to use my Pay-As-You-Go program. You’ll secure your spot now with your first payment of $55, followed by THREE more payments of $55 thirty days apart.
MONEY BACK
GUARANTEE
100%
Who hasn't bought jeans online and needed to return them? No worries, step into this program for 7 days. If you start check it out within 7 days you are dissatisfied you are eligible for a refund, no questions asked.