Ready for your relationships to change?

From Anxious 
to Secure

Imagine having all the closeness in relationship you could want.  Your partner communicates what's going on for them, and knows how to listen and support you.  You feel met, cared for and that you have a true match to live life with. 

For years I struggled with dating unavailable men.  I knew that my childhood had influenced my romantic life, and I did tons of therapy and personal growth to try to change my attachment style.  I learned the pitfalls and behaviors that keep relationships toxic and insecure. Most importantly, I learned proactive things people with insecure attachments can do to create secure relationships.

Any of this sound familiar?


Are you plagued with being ghosted, dating people emotionally unavailable or who just don't want a committed relationship? Or maybe you are married to someone who can't be present to you emotionally.

You are a giver, but it's rare for someone to show up for you like you show up for them.  You want to be able to express all the love in your heart and have it returned.

You notice when things are disconnected, or when your relationship needs to be tended to, but your partner is out to lunch. It seems like you are always the one bringing up hard topics or trying to talk about meaningful things.  You are the one doing all the emotional work.

giving way more than you are getting

You're doing all the emotional labor in relationships





you are sensitive to being abandoned

Look, you have been let down way too many times.  It can be hard to trust that someone will be there for you.  Maybe you get jealous easily, or have fear that someone will break up with you.  You may also be overly sensitive to taking time away from your partner.


“Sefora has a gentle, nurturing way about her. I always feel safe sharing the intimate details of my life because I trust her to use the inforomation to help me break through to the healing. She encourages me to be honest and courageous which has really made a positive impact on my progress. I can tell that she genuinely cares about helping me work through my issues so I can create the life of my dreams."

what's been said:

It's it time you finally had boundaries, had more self compassion, and stopped dating emotionally unavailable people? I know how to make that happen.

You don't have to do it alone.

real talk:

Sometimes it can feel like it's groundhog day and you are stuck creating the same wrong relationship over and over again. You may not believe that there are truly wonderful people out there anymore.  You may have also tried everything you know to do.


From Anxious to Secure

A 6 week course designed so that you can do the work of shifting your attachment style from anxious to secure.  Attachment styles are not permanent.  They are permeable and can shift depending on who we are in relationship and how we go about relating.  In this course, I will show you how to change your relational template and reclaim your power to create fulfilling relationships!

Understand the formation of your relationship attachment, and how Anxious Attachment shows up in your relationships now.  Learn about the ways in which support and needs impacted your relationship template.  

Self Knowledge

Here is what you'll learn

Let's break it down

Module 1

There are behavioral patterns from an Anxious attachment that sabotage relationships.  Learn about those pitfalls and create practices to balance emotions, create stronger boundaries and  Emotional regulation, Boundaries, recognize red flags.

Finding Balance in your emotional world

Module 2

Roughly 50% of people are securely attached.  Understanding Secure Attachment and how to take actions that are secure in relationship.  Develop practices for healthy relating.

A clear vision for healthy relating

Module 3

Develop practices of receiving, so that you are able to let in more love.  Outline and know the essentials of what is needed for you to be in a healthy relationship.  

Receiving Love, Honoring Needs

Module 4

Recognize and care for the younger part of you that has been disappointed and angry.  Create practices to  healing your Inner Child.  Create a new template for inner support. Managing the inner critic, and appreciate yourself at a deeper level.

Appreciating Yourself

Module 5

Creating the Love You Want: Leading from Connection, the power of presence.  Learn to embody connection and experience more of the love you have always wanted.

A New Experience of Love

Module 6

How does this sound?

the Results you will get

A clear understanding of how your attachment was formed


Clarity around which self sabotaging behavior is getting in your way of relationships


Accountability to practice new ways of supporting yourself


Understanding of how secure relationships work and how to recognize them


Support from others who are working to shift their patterns too.


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How It Works

6 Weeks of video lessons that help you learn how to shift your patterns

Weekly video lessons

Weekly  homework to integrate the lessons and move the work forward.

homework to integrate

Live group coaching calls with Sefora to get support with your process.

weekly live coaching calls

“I have worked with Sefora several times over the last many years, and have always left the sessions feeling more clear, less stuck, and able to approach my healing with a new perspective.”

So lets get started!

A year from now,
you will wish you started today...

I have worked with Sefora several times over the last many years, and have always left the sessions feeling more clear,

She is clever, has a good sense of humor, warm, personable, incredibly smart, inquisitive, and has a way of being soothing when a lot of difficult emotions are being brought up, yet encourages you to get words out when it would be easier to sweep them under the rug.

I really appreciate her energy and passion for her job, and she’s so good at it. She is very warm, has a sense of humor and really understands the difficult dynamics that couples get stuck in!

Reviews of my work

Sefora is super knowledgable about working with couples.

Sefora was such a blessing to us! We got through so much crap that I’m not sure we could’ve overcame without her help.

less stuck, and able to approach my healing with a new perspective. Her approach is direct and compassionate, and she is highly creative and fun to work with. Her years of counseling training allow her to offer a wide range of therapeutic modalities with ease and curiosity. I would highly recommend Sefora to anyone who is looking for guidance and skilled counseling.

You're in the right place.

I was able to shift my attachment style and get into a secure relationship with a fantastic partner who was emotionally available and wanted a committed, connected relationship.  I happy to share EVERYTHING I learned that made a difference. Attachment styles are changeable, and there are things you can do. 

You're more amazing and lovable than you think you are. But if you're anything like me, you need help to get your relationships to reflect that. You just want someone to tell you what to do to get into those relationships.

"There are so many things
that we wish we had done yesterday,so few that we feel like doing today."

-Mignon McLaughlin

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Know exactly what you need in relationship to feel supported and loved

Recognize ways you have self sabotaged your relationships and what you can do differently.

Have practices for self compassion and self-soothing.

By the end of this course you will...

Understand why you keep creating the wrong relationship patterns

Have practiced and articulated your boundaries

Understand Secure Functioning relationships and how to recognize them.

“Sefora's approach is direct and compassionate, and she is highly creative and fun to work with.”

I'm Sefora, your new get-a-grip relationship coach.

I received my Masters in Counseling Psychology at Meridian University, and have over 10,000 hour of training and work with individuals and couples. I am a level 2 PACT therapist for couples, trained in how psychobiology affects your relationships and how to create secure attachment. I am also trained in Attachment Focused EMDR. 

Hey there!

I studied attachment work for 2 decades both personally and professionally.  Changing your attachment style is possible.  I'll be honest, it takes grit! But there are things that most people can learn that can improve their attachment in relationships. In my individual sessions and classes I create a safe space for growth and reflection, humor and insight, but not always in that order.

I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist, #96387 

I understand how hard it can be 

I was in personal growth for years, I spent so much time feeling all of my feelings and grief about how my parents had been unavailable. But I was still attracted and drawn to all the wrong men. I would start out relationships hopeful, thinking maybe this person is different, and then they were unavailable. 

Things finally changed for me: I studied attachment  working with couples in PACT, which is a form or couples therapy. I was finally able to see the very specific things that I was doing to sabotage myself. I also did  EMDR, which solidified the positive beliefs I wanted to have. 

There were years when I only dated unavailable people. Don’t make the same mistake I made, hoping that at some point things would just change on their own! There are things you can do. 

You don't have to be "SPECIAL" to be loved. you just need to know how to be secure in relationships.

but it wasn't always this way 

Put the techniques you learn into practice during group coaching sessions. This is a safe place where everyone is working on their own self-love journey.

Before each group session, you’ll get a journaling prompt. This will help your thoughts flow. Then when you come to class, you’ll be ready to share what came up for you. Most students find it powerful to learn that others are having similar struggles and hear the creative ways they are showing up for themselves amongst the chaos of their lives.

We can’t wait to connect and grow with you!

Get live support weekly.

Group Coaching

Feeling helpless about changing your relationships can be horrible.  This course will support you with weekly assignments to put what you are learning into action.  Go at your own pace, and download them so you can dive deeper when the time permits.

weekly homework to make progress.

Practical assignments

year long access to your material

connect in community

direct access to your coach

go at your own pace

Many books will explain the origin of someone becoming anxiously attached, but they don't show how the person recreates this attachment over and over.  There are very clear things you can do to change HOW you related in relationship.


This program shows you the          of changing your attachment style

If you want THIS to be the year that you *finally* commit to:

Reclaiming your power to create fulfilling relationships

Attracting people who are good at being connected and supportive.

Create practices to balance your emotions and feel grounded in life.

Heal old wounds and stop them from sabotaging relationships. 

Hold strong and healthy boundaries.

Try My Program for 14 days. Get your money back if it didn’t serve you.

If you start my program and within 14 days you are dissatisfied you are eligible for a refund, no questions asked.

Money Back Guarantee

This       for you if:

It's probably        for you if...



YOU'RE OVERWHELMED BY THIS thinking about your past

YOU'RE not willing to do the 6 weeks of work

You are not sure if you are anxiously attached

YOU'RE motivated to create change

YOU enjoy getting clear practices for integration

YOU are coachable and want support

So lets get started!

A year from now,
you will wish you started today...

Frequently Asked Questions

Are my results guaranteed?

Like anything in life, you will get out of this masterclass what you put into it. While we do offer a 14-day money-back guarantee, the results you get are up to you. We can promise that if you commit to the process and put in the work, you will see results.

Can i share this course with a friend?

The insights you learn will definitely be share-worthy, but the activities in each class are tailored for the individuals in that specific group. In order for your friends to get the best results, we recommend they sign up to take the masterclass themselves.

Yes! For a limited time, I am offering a refund of $200 if you have a friend sign up! This means you could actually do the course for free if you and a friend join together.

Do you have any incentives if I refer a friend?

We want your experience to be interactive and personal, so we limit each group to a maximum of 20 participants. This gives you plenty of opportunities to ask questions and interact with one another.

How many people will be in each group coaching session?

how long can i access the course online

You will have a year to access to all sessions following the completion of the course.

how is this different from group Therapy?

Coaching is meant to support people who are able to be proactive for themselves.  It is goal oriented and focused on practical steps and homework.  In the group calls you will have the opportunity to have direct advice and feedback on how you are showing up with your attachment style.

Still on the fence?

I completely understand.
Time and money are spent wisely

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