Feel Like You’re Walking on Eggshells to Be Politically Correct? Try This Instead

    I had a revelation a few days ago, about a conversation I’ve seen happening online and in person where someone asks for a little more sensitivity around an issue like racism or sexism, and the other party says, “I don’t think so. I don’t want to have to walk on eggshells.” Understandable. We all want to be able to be our authentic selves, and not have to edit our personhood for someone else. But something happened that really helped me understand how “walking on eggshells” keeps people small.   I participate in a mixed-gender group, and in one recent meeting a number of men were being very vocal about what they wanted to see happen in the group, making jokes and taking up a lot of airspace. One of the women brought to the attention of the group that she was aware of how much the men in the room were speaking, and how she wanted to move into the rest of our meeting with a little more balance. Calmly, a man responded that he had been really working on trying to speak up more when things were bothering him, and that he didn’t want to have to walk on eggshells or be inauthentic inside of the meeting. I find this to be one of the biggest responses that men have to being aware of how they might be enacting racism or sexism: they want to be themselves. They want to be authentic. They don’t want to have […] Read more »