Stop thinking about your Ex! Breaking Free from the Mental Loop

In this article, we look at why your brain keeps thinking about your ex, how to stop ruminating about an ex, and a short exercise that can help.

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5 Signs of a Healthy, Securely Attached Relationship

In this post, we explore five key signs of a healthy securely attached relationship.

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Can You Change Your Attachment Style?

It may come as a relief to know that yes, you can absolutely change your attachment style. Unlike personality, attachment style is fluid: it changes for the better or for the worse depending on your relationships

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4 Strategies for Coping With Anxious Attachment Styles While Dating

Struggling with an anxious attachment style while dating? Here are four practical strategies to help you better cope with your anxiety and build healthier relationships.

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How Do I Stop Dating Unavailable People (Men)?

Do you find yourself, time after time, dating people who just aren’t that into you? Here are 3 things you can do right now to put a stop to it.

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5 Ways to Help Anxious Attachment and Love More Securely

Are you looking for help with your Anxious Attachment? The good news is that your attachment style can change. Get ready to learn some secrets to become more securely attached.

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Spring Cleaning for Healthy Attachment in Relationships

Here are 4 ways to do spring cleaning in your relationships and support healthy attachment

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Are You Too Picky? Or is it Your Attachment Style?

Let’s say for a moment that you have decided you are ready to date, and find a partner that meets you in all the deepest ways, to create the love you know you deserve. And lets just say that you have done a ton of work on yourself already. You consider yourself to be a […]

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Attachment

The Damaging Effects of People Pleasing on Relationships

In this article, we will explore five significant ways in which people pleasing can ruin the very connections we value. From crossing our own boundaries to compromising our emotional well-being, it’s essential to understand the detrimental impact of this behavior.

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A Story Illustrating How Attachment Wounds Limit Our Ability to Receive

What if you knew that support was available to you all the time?  Anytime you needed it? And what if you knew that even the most complicated, nuanced, specific, loving, support was available to you whenever you needed?

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Relationship issues

Stop thinking about your Ex! Breaking Free from the Mental Loop

In this article, we look at why your brain keeps thinking about your ex, how to stop ruminating about an ex, and a short exercise that can help.

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Relationship issues

Can You Change Your Attachment Style?

It may come as a relief to know that yes, you can absolutely change your attachment style. Unlike personality, attachment style is fluid: it changes for the better or for the worse depending on your relationships

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Relationship issues

Understanding Anxious Attachment Style – How to Cope

Anxious attachment style can be disruptive to your relationships and life if not handled with care. Read how to recognize the signs of anxious attachment styles and how to find the right coping strategies.

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Exploring the Different Attachment Styles of Human Relationships

Understanding your own and others’ attachment style can help you build better relationships! Read on to explore the different types of attachment styles people may have.

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4 Strategies for Coping With Anxious Attachment Styles While Dating

Struggling with an anxious attachment style while dating? Here are four practical strategies to help you better cope with your anxiety and build healthier relationships.

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Relationship issues

How Do I Stop Dating Unavailable People (Men)?

Do you find yourself, time after time, dating people who just aren’t that into you? Here are 3 things you can do right now to put a stop to it.

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Dating Checklist For Someone Securely Attached

So you have decided you want to relationship but you don’t want to date people who are unavailable or avoidant. Here’s what to look for if you want to be with someone securely attached.

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How Learning to Facilitate PACT for Couples Helped Me Finally Meet the Love of My Life

I had no idea when I took the PACT training to become a couples therapist that it would affect my personal life so dramatically. I can confidently say now that the reason I’m in a secure relationship is because I took the PACT training and learned how my attachment style affected my dating life. Through […]

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Tips for Relationships

What People Are Not Talking About Around Consent

  The conversation about consent has reached a fever pitch and is getting some well-deserved attention that allows us to look more closely at how we approach sex in dating and beyond. But there’s still something missing; something that I see in my couples counseling practice more often than you would believe: There’s no conversation […]

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Avoid This Mistake Made by Most Divorced Couples

  Pitching the idea of going to couples counseling to your partner is uncomfortable, to be sure, maybe even scary. It can be difficult to address getting counseling because, once the fight is over, you don’t want to rock the precarious boat that finally feels somewhat okay. Maybe you don’t think couples counseling will help […]

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"I was just like you. Struggling & desperate to have a supportive relationship"

I'm Sefora, your new get-a-grip relationship coach.
I have been a transformational leader and coach for over 20 years. I received my Masters in Counseling Psychology at Meridian University, and have over 10,000 hour of training and work with individuals and couples as a therapist. I am a level 2 PACT therapist for couples, trained in how psychobiology affects your relationships and how to create secure attachment. I am also trained in Attachment Focused EMDR. 





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Transformational Leader, Therapist, Relationship Coach, Attachment Expert & Boss Mom

I studied attachment work for 2 decades both personally and professionally. Changing your attachment style is possible. I'll be honest, it takes grit! But there are things that most people can learn that can improve their attachment in relationships. In my individual sessions and classes I create a safe space for growth and reflection, humor and insight, but not always in that order.

I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist, #96387